Tuesday, January 15, 2008

It's not all in your head!

Why are some people always happy and others always sad and then there are those that are somewhere inbetween? Why is that? Is it heredity, circumstance, a choice, just the way we are, or what? I think that it is a jumbled up mix of all of them. You know, a heaping portion of heredity, add in a cup of circumstance, 1/4 tsp. of choice. Stir them altogether, insert in warm blanket, add a dollop of tears and let stew. Take out of blanket only when life insists that you have to face it head on or the roof will collapse down around your ears.

Or something like that.

I graduated from BYU 3 1/2 years ago with a degree in Psychology. I have been thinking about going back to school to get my masters or Ph.D. but was not sure in what. So I sort of put it on the back burner for a while. I have always loved working with children (hence the education degree, the 7 kids, and now working in a jr. high). I have always been the type of person that people tell things too. And it seems that the things I say or advice or listening ear I give help.

I have been helping a student at school that has some issues to deal with. One of my children has to deal with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) with depression and panic attacks. I deal with depression (we had a lesson about it in church last month- I wasn't there for it, I was too depressed to get out of bed, but heard about it. I'll tell you about it in another post). I even started another blog where my intent was to give helps for dealing with some of these things. So far I have mostly just whined and was thinking last week about getting started on changing it to what I really intended.

Kimberly over at Temporary? Insanity wrote a post on feeling blue. It started me thinking about this whole process again. Then my friend wrote me and asked me about where to go to find help for another of her friends. Then a relative wrote and told me that one of their children was not going to be able to do something that he really wanted to do, because of panic attacks, anxiety and depression.

So in some soul searching, Well not really, it was kind of one of those things I just knew, I have decided to get back to:
* seriously writing and posting on the other blog.
*seriously posting about these issues once in a while here.
*go back to school and get my master's or Ph.D. with an emphesis in Depressive Disorders
because really, when it comes down to it, It's not all in your head. Not everyone can just decide to be happy and be happy and I want to help others cope and deal with life on a real, not superficial or dysfunctional level. We all deserve to live the best life we can. And if I can help you get out of your head on into your life, then maybe today will be just a bit brighter.

I just read Michelle's post today. It is very relevant to this topic.

2 comments:

Michele Holmes said...

So true that not everyone can just decided to feel happy. I've been fortunate in that usually---no matter how bad things are---I can pick myself up and go on. Not so, however, with my two oldest children who have been diagnosed with depressive disorders. It has been a long, difficult, and eye-opening road for our family to travel. I wish you the best with your family's battle against this very real illness.

Kimberly Vanderhorst said...

You made my day twice today. Linky love and you're reading my book? What a lovely lady you are!

This is a very thought-provoking post. Obviously the subject has been on my mind lately, but this gave me some new ideas to ponder on. Thanks!