We watched this documentary in class on Tuesday.
David, the white man, never did understand how bigoted and blind he was being. He believed that unless he had had an experience, then it just never happened. And I wanted to shake him. It was as if he absolutely refused to believe that someone might experience the world differently than he does. Maddening. Every time one of the men would talk about an experience or feeling they had had, David would say, "I don't believe that is the way it is." or "Not true" or "You are just blaming white people for your own lack". I do not know how these other men spent 48 hours in his company and were not any more angry than they were. I listened to him for 48 minutes and couldn't stand him.
Brandi experiences the world as a person of color. There are small things that people say and do that have made me aware of the fact that she is seen as "less than". When she was born, her father's mother said "Oh how nice of you to help that poor little black girl" Excuse me? She never even cared to find out the real reason Brandi joined our family. I don't believe she would have said that if Brandi had been white. Every chance she gets she tells me that she doesn't think less of Brandi because she is black. She just ignores the rest of my kids.
Other ways she experiences the world that I don't? I am convinced that her suspension in Dec. was racially motivated. People walk up to her and want to touch her hair. They ask if they can touch it and then do it without waiting for her answer. People express surprise that she can read 1 1/2 grade levels higher, and she can do math or that she is not particularly interested in sports unless it is soccer. Doesn't she want to play basketball? Black people play basketball, not soccer.
As a woman, I also experience the world differently. When I walk out of a store or school and it is dark, I hate to be alone because it is scary. I don't get on elevators if the only other person is a male that I do not know. In fact, I will get off if no one else is on and a male gets on.
I hate buying tires for my car. Well, that is not so true anymore, I just go to Larkin tire here in town. Jack, the owner, treats me like one of his daughter and makes sure I am taken care of. But before Jack had a business here, I was treated like an imbecile when I walked in a tire store/hardware store or what ever else is considered traditionally a male domain.
If you can find this documentary, watch it. We only watched the part on race, it has 3-4 parts and discusses other culture differences. It will get you thinking about the way you see the world and how you judge others and see them in the world.